Hi there,
I trust you are doing great.
Have you read our last post from Leke Alder? Here is another hot serving of Leke Alder’s Letter to Jil. I am not sure he gave this letter a title, So here is my title for today’s letter – What Memories Will Your Husband Have?
So call all your girls together and let them glean some wisdom from the Mentor, Mr Leke Alder.
1. My dear Jil, I met an extraordinary man named Richard Lef last week. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
2. Now you may think me a fabulist but Richard is over 300 years old! (Maybe, maybe not!) #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
3. Richard was an ordinary man, just like the rest of us. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
4. He woke, he bathed, he dressed, drove to work, did his work, ate his lunch, closed from work, drove back home. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
5. Richard had a wonderful marriage. His wife was beautiful, tender hearted, loving, kind and devoted. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
6. To be honest, she was too beautiful for him. And those who met them could never imagine Richard snatching such a prize. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
7. But she saw in Richard the things that matter. She saw beyond his social clumsiness, his self effacement. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
8. She saw nobility, constancy and character. Those items she concluded are not always in abundant supply. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
9. Perhaps the constancy came from working in the lab. Richard was (is) a scientist. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
10. His line of work requires routinisation of plebeian chores. You can't do it without constancy. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
11. Everything was going well for Richard – loving wife, beautiful home, wonderful children… #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
12. Until one fateful day when Richard's wife was diagnosed with cancer. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
13. Richard's world imploded inside him, but it held up by the scaffold of his scientific quality – constancy. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
14. Richard approached the problem in the way he knew best – as a scientist. Not that he didn't pray. God knows he did! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
15. He went into the lab, refocused his research and began to look for a cure for breast cancer. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
16. And that was when Richard began experimenting with rats, or shall we say mice. "Rats" has a nasty ring to it. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
17. He radically aged mice in the lab, programming them to die in twenty-one days. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
18. He then injected them with things to prolong their lives and recorded his observations. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
19. One fateful day Richard injected a group of mice with stem cells four days to the end of their life span. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
20. The mice miraculously lived to seventy-two days! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
21. That is the equivalence of an eighty-year old man living to two hundred years. Richard was unto something and he knew it. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
22. He had a gateway to prolonging his wife's life. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
23. But he also knew it would take years for government to approve the experiment on humans. He couldn't wait! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
24. It is not uncommon for scientists to try things on themselves. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
25. Newton famously jammed a darning needle around the side of his eyeball. He wanted to understand the nature of light. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
26. And so Richard injected himself with stem cells of a provenance I know nothing about, in quantities I know nothing about. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
27. No, he did not turn into a green lizard. You've been watching too much Spiderman! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
28. And no, he didn't turn into Hulk either. (Why are they always green?!) #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
29. All I can say is that somehow the young cells overthrew Richard’s cells in a biological coup. They took over his body. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
30. Richard’s constitution changed. At first he felt discomfort. But he could not share his discomfort. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
31. Not with his colleagues – for obvious reasons. And not with his wife. She was extremely weak at this time. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
32. He couldn't tell his children either. Daddy has gone mad will be the refrain. And so Richard kept his secret to himself. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
33. As the days came by and moved on, Richard's constitution became stubborn. Richard refused to age. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
34. Unfortunately his experiment came too late for his wife. She died. And Richard died inside though now immortal. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
35. His colleagues at the lab grew old, retired and died. Not Richard! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
36. He waxed stronger. His memory was sharp. Richard didn’t need to struggle with old age. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
37. He went mountain climbing at the age of seventy-six, did bungee jumping at eighty-two and skydived at ninety. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
38. He soon found himself alone though. The more he read the obituary columns of newspapers the more alone he felt. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
39. All his friends were going on long journeys, never to return. Richard was now the only one left of his generation. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
40. And he soon outlived his children, and then his grandchildren. And that was how Richard became the man who had seen it all! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
41. He discovered that life is a cycle. What was, is. What is, was! Richard became a sage. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
42. When I asked for tips I could share with my tweeps on marriage he had this to say: #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
43. "What we're in the habit of doing we soon carry over into marriage. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
44. Unchecked, bad habits are potential destroyers of matrimony." #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
45. And he cited case studies. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
46. He knew the outcome of human behavior. He could plot trajectories of lives and arrive at uncanny answers. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
47. I further asked him what he missed the most about mortality. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
48. He looked at me with sad eyes and told me he wished he had died with his wife. He wishes he can die and go and meet her. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
49. "She was my soul mate, my comfort, my confidante. We were one. She loved me in a way no one ever could." #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
50. Jil, I've heard of love like this before. Reminds me of Johnny Cash. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
51. Johnny Cash couldn't survive June Carter Cash. He left barely four months after her, to go and be with her. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
52. When my friend's mother died, she told me her father just sat there, alone with her… No one knew till the next evening. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
53. He didn't know what to do with himself, or with her. He just sat there talking to her, looking at her. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
54. He had bought everything they owned in her name believing he would depart first. He trusted her absolutely. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
55. Make your husband trust you and keep that trust. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
56. I know another old man whose wife died in an accident. Till today he takes flowers to her grave, celebrates her birthday. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
57. Some bonds are so powerful even death struggles to break them. Humans stand no chance. Unity. Oneness. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
58. Acceptance and understanding are common to such relationships. The couple care for each other, WANT the relationship. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
59. They're usually the best of friends, accepting of each other's inadequacies and imperfections. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
60. Friendship, commitment, love, fidelity, acceptance, understanding, unity, appreciation, celebration… #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
61. I left Richard that evening wondering about a lot of things. You should wonder too! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
62. What memories will your husband have if (God forbid) you pass away? #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
63. Your mentor, LA ©Leke Alder #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 10, 2013
Some serious food for though, right? What would you do differently?
Cheers.
N.B.
You can find below links to past letters from Leke Alder. Do read them. They are loaded with wisdom.
Leke Alder – Letter to Jack : You cheated on Her
Leke Alder: Letter to Jack – What Every Man Should Know Before Choosing A Wife
Leke Alder: Letter to Jil – Game-Changing Truths Every Woman Should Know
