Hallos,
Did you read Leke Alder’s serial tweets on the wisdom-packed “Letter to Jack”? I have good news for you. He also did something for Jil, for the Ladies in the house and I am very glad to share them with you today.
He calls them, “Letter to Jil”. I call them “Game-Changing Truths Every Woman Should Know”.
Happy reading. Do share your thoughts on this letter when you are done.
1. Dear Jil, today I want to share with you the paradox of capacities. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
2. One of the greatest paradoxes of life is that strengths are often weaknesses. #Letr2Jil
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3. I remember the story of a disciplined politician with an incredibly disciplined thought system. #Letr2Jil
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4. He knew how to save his nation from economic miasma but he was accused of rigidity. #Letr2Jil
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5. That became an electoral albatross that earned him in death the sobriquet of the best president his nation never had! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
6. And so strengths can become weaknesses if not properly shepherded. #Letr2Jil
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7. A woman has two critical instruments. They are her tongue and her emotions. These are powerful technologies. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
8. The tongue on its own is a deadly weapon. Let me quote from James' contemporary thesis on the tongue: #Letr2Jil
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9. "By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
10. A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it!" #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
11. Now you see the paradox of the tongue: it can build and destroy in equal measure! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
12. In the corporate world I've seen grown men weep, torn to shreds from the tongue-lashing of a woman. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
13. And I'm talking about a woman shredding her colleague – not a superordinate shredding a subordinate. #Letr2Jil
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14. What makes words so powerful in the mouth of a woman? #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
15. It's because the words of a woman ride on the strength of the combination of her dual capacities.
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16. They ride on the power of the amplitude of her emotions in combination with the inherent power of the tongue. #Letr2Jil
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17. Emotions are liquefied natural gas. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
18. When combined with the tongue it can set off a forest fire and send the whole world up in smoke, according to James. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
19. And a woman has an abundance of emotions. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
20. Without that abundance she cannot be the surfeit of human kindness that she is. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
21. Without it she can't nurse her baby way beyond the harsh capacities of a man. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
22. Men are just not equipped with those levels of emotional capacity. It makes a woman a pillow of comfort. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
23. And in many homes you'll find that the woman is the mediator. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
24. She's the translator of a child's incorrigibility into acceptable understanding. She's a shield from harsh judgment. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
25. That same emotion is what makes a woman vulnerable, sometimes to emotional predators. #Letr2Jil
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26. Again we see the paradox of capacities. #Letr2Jil
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27. The question you're confronted with in your relationship is, to what use do you want to put these powerful capacities? #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
28. You can either build with it, or destroy a life with it. You can pull your man down, destroy his ego, his self esteem… #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
29. Or you can prop him up, boost his immune system…it's tough out there you know! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
30. You can be a comforter with your emotions, or you can use it obtusely to amass inordinate power through moodiness. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
31. What is interesting in James' analogous reasoning is that the tongue itself gets consumed when it sets the world on fire. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
32. In other words, a destructive use of the tongue is self-obligatory and non-discriminatory. It consumes, and then consumes. #Letr2Jil
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33. The tongue is an arsonist who doesn't spare the supplier of gasoline. #Letr2Jil
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34. You are a weaponised entity. Be careful with them weapons. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
35. A woman often dreams of her wedding day. Most women have it all planned out. A man lacks that visionary capacity. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
36. But suppose as you read this we create extra frames of future history and extend the script into marriage itself. #Letr2Jil
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37. There you are in your home sending your man off in the morning with words of encouragement. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
38. You'll be shocked how much a man needs this, and he needs it often! A kind word, touch or kiss does wonders! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
39. He's going to face the lion and the bear out there. He needs your words and comfort. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
40. And he either comes home beaten, needing to go back into the ring to fight again; or he comes home triumphant. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
41. If he's triumphant, you can encourage him to aspire more. If beaten you can encourage him to fight one more round! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
42. And one more round, and one more round until life determines of its own accord he can't be licked. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
43. Contrast that scenario with tearing him down in the morning. He won't want to come back home! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
44. We all pray for success. The story you don't want is that your husband made it despite you. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
45. You want him ever grateful for the kind of woman you are! That is a vision worth pursuing. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
46. A bit in the mouth of a horse controls the whole horse, James says in his essay on anatomical purposedness. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
47. A small rudder on a huge ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets a course in the face of the strongest winds. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
48. In other words, in a manner of speaking, you can be the bit in the mouth of your man. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
49. We may be hearing from the horse's mouth, but it's your bit of encouragement in the mouth of the horse that makes it fearless! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
50. You can be the emotional rudder in the face of strong winds and tempestuous seas. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
51. I remember the story of Evander Holyfield when he faced Mike Tyson. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
52. (Don't know for sure if the story is true but it sure is compelling even if not true!) #Letr2Jil
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53. A few minutes to the start of the boxing match, Evander became afraid. Who wouldn't be! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
54. Don't forget that, that Tyson guy would later bite off his ear, raw! He was a raging lunatic with a neck the size of a thigh! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
55. Sensing her husband's vulnerability, so the story goes, Mrs Holyfield invited her husband to dance. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
56. She held him and danced with him, draining away his fears, replacing nervous energy with the energy of faith. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
57. He went into that ring and faced the devil, beating the daylights out of Tyson. He pugilistically disciplined an animal! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
58. That's the kind of stuff you can do with your capacities! Hope to see you next week! #Letr2Jil ©Leke Alder
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) July 27, 2013
What do you think?
Cheers.
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