Hello,
It is Leke Alder’s time again. Jil has a peculiar problem – She seems to be attracted to guys who are already in steady relationships. In other words, she likes dating other people’s boyfriends. Leke Alder shares his perspectives on this issue and gives her some insight on why this tendency will do her no good. It is time to learn, folks. Read on….
1. My dear Jil, I received your missive but I really didn't know what to make of it. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
2. I think the issue presents a deeper problem than it seems at first glance. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
3. You're locked in a vice and I hope this mail propels you to seek escape from the cycle of unhappy relationships. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
4. Your strategy for seeking companionship is eminently counterproductive. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
5. It's why you've not had a "relationship" for two years even though you've been with "plenty of guys". #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
6. By relationship of course you mean proprietary and exclusive relationship- not sharing another woman's man. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
7. The failure of your strategy for getting a man has morphed into a belief in enchanting badluck. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
8. It's why you say you "seem to attract the ones that are already in a relationship". #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
9. You speak as if you're cursed to this course of life, like there's voodoo devilry at play. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
10. Dating other people's boyfriends is self-defeatist. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
11. In that period in which you're preoccupied you're not available to single guys. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
12. And since you lurch from one such relationship to another, you're essentially foreclosed. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
13. Because your objective in such a relationship is permanence you CAN'T see what's available. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
14. Your vision is impaired. Your concentration creates tunnel vision. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
15. Now, praying that these guys will drop their girlfriends for you is taking things to another level. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
16. I was talking to a lady much older than you just last week and she expressed same sentiments and desire. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
17. A little late to marriage, she hopes to reap the boyfriends of ladies not treating their men right. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
18. Of course she's going to be extra nice to them! It's called strategic niceness. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
19. This should give a lot of warning to women out there though I sincerely worry about such scavenging strategy. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
20. It's a desperate strategy that is hinting at low self esteem. That for me is an even bigger concern about you. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
21. I'm surprised though that you say you "end up being the one hurt" when the strategy doesn't pan out. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
22. This may sound hard but I think you lack a moral basis for seeing yourself as a victim. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
23. How can you be the victim?! If your plot ever succeeds there'll be only one victim- the other woman! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
24. You CAN'T claim to be a victim under any circumstance. I advice you get out of the self pity mode. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
25. Even if you succeed in snatching such a boyfriend I don't know you can keep him. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
26. He's going to go after side orders, just like he went after you. Win or lose you're in for heartache. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
27. I believe your generation calls the partners in such trysts and assignations "parole". Get it? You are his "parole". #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
28. The guy keeps his bride to be in a cool enclosure whilst sexing a girl on the side. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
29. Of course he has no intention of marrying such a girl or any such you! You're parole! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
30. Guys don't marry paroles. They just sleep with them. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
31. In the unlikely event that a parole replaces the bride there is a coerced gang up of circumstances. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
32. But the odds are not good. It's a very long shot. Bad gambling, as you can testify. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
33. And just what do you think will happen if you do secure your prize? An African proverb comes to mind- #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
34. "The instrument of employ in the lashing of the housewife is reserved for the scheming wannabe wife." #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
35. There's nothing "about you" attracting guys otherwise hooked. Bees just go for honey. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
36. Guys go for what is especially generously available. You are available. Sex for men is opportunistic. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
36. Guys go for what is especially generously available. You are available. Sex for men is opportunistic. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
38. If you signify you're available despite knowing he has a steady girlfriend you're going into a deal! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
39. Unfortunately for you, you've been at cross purposes with your partners in these deals. It's why you've been reeling. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
40. On your part you want to snatch the guy, to lure him into a predetermined eventuality. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
41. On his part it's just an extra sinful liaison: sex without expectations- both sides understand the deal sex. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
42. By the time you start telling him to leave his girlfriend the whole thing begins to become emotionally complicated to him. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
43. Your needfulness and demands he can't abide. The deal was sex without commitment. Why the involution? #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
44. He ends the relationship abruptly. But not before another sex. It's one of the reasons you're pained. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
45. You feel dumped, used. He's not about to leave his girlfriend for you; was never planning to! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
46. You thought you were attractive and that was why he made a move on you. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
47. If you are so attractive and a better bundle of value trust me you won't need to ask such a guy to leave his girlfriend. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
48. Do you know why he enjoyed sexual congress with you? #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
49. It's because of what Solomon said about stolen waters. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
50. "Stolen waters (pleasures) are sweet because they are forbidden; and bread eaten in secret is pleasant." Prov.9:17 #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
51. Remove the cloak and dagger, and the relationship becomes tepid. And when he's openly singular with you truth comes out. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
52. That's when you realise he's not so proud of you after all. He'll even see problems with your dressing. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
53. And the cross comparison with his supplanted girlfriend will be brutal. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
54. He'll blame you for losing her. And for what he'll ask himself. You're the "what". #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
55. Don't go for these kinds of relationship. Win or lose you lose. #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
56. Wait for a guy who'll value you, who'll treasure you; who's not just after the gravitational propulsion of your pants… #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
57. …a guy who'll bless God for meeting you, and bless your mother for giving birth to you! #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
58. That's the kind of relationship to go for. Your mentor, LA. ©Leke Alder talk2me@lekealder.com #Letr2Jil
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) November 16, 2013
Hmmm… very deep, right?
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Thanks. Cheers!!!
HMM,TNKS MR LEKE ALDER. THAT WAS THE TRUTH.MAY GOD BLESS YOU WITH MORE INSPIRATION ON THIS.