Hallo Africa.
How are you?
Have you read the last Letter to Jil from Leke Alder? He titled it, “You cheated on him”. I must say, they were very hard truths for all Jils out there.
Now, I will like to share with the version for the Jacks (for all Guys). Leke Alder titled this one, “You cheated on her”. Hmmm.. seems he is talking about you. Read on!
1. Dear Jack, I did warn you not to take your fiancée for granted. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
2. Now you've joined the League of Esau. Esau didn't value what he had until he lost it. Then he began to weep for it. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
3. When you have something beautiful in your life cherish it and be contented. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
4. The nature of nature is proliferation of variegatedness from an armamentarium of quantum variabilities. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
5. Translated, beauty is so prolific that a man who is not contented will forever be stretching out his neck in wantoness. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
6. And I hope you learn from this and that given another opportunity you will cherish what God gives you. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
7. The single most important factor in a relationship is TRUST! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
8. Trust means a lot to a woman. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
9. Hopeful trustworthiness is the basis of her decision to commit to emotional and material investments. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
10. Women don't just partner in a relationship, they invest significantly. They're emotional investors. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
11. The first investment a woman makes in a relationship is the "self". There's a quantity called "self". #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
12. When a woman talks about "sacrifice" in a relationship she's referring to this "self". I need you to understand this. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
13. It's why love seems suicidal in certain circumstances. In colloquial terms we call it "I go die!" #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
14. The second thing a woman invests in a relationship is significant quantum of emotions. Emotions as assets. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
15. The third thing a woman invests in a relationship is hope. That sounds like a paradox but… #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
16. Hope is a substance. Paul spoke about the substance of things hoped for. It's an ingredient of faith. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
17. It's why a woman's decision on life partner sometimes seems baffling. She's seeing something we can't readily see! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
18. These three – self, emotions and hope – constitute the basis of the tangible investments we see – time, effort, finance, etc. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
19. When a woman suffers a breakup, the losses are hardly the material things she brought into the relationship. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
20. Why breakups are so hard for women is because they made irrecoverable equitable investments – sunk capital! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
21. How do you recover hope or self? It's one more reason a woman should opt out of an abusive relationship, fast! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
22. Hoping against hope in such circumstances is bad investment analysis. The indices point in only one direction! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
23. A woman invests based on hopeful trust. Who puts money in a bank they can't trust? #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
24. And so when a woman goes into a relationship there's a fundamental assumption of trustworthiness. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
25. And please I'm talking about wholesome relationship, not predatory or exploitative relationship. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
26. If you've had a Lotharios' past she takes it you're now serious and want to commit. She forgives the past. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
27. There's that hope a woman has that she will find the man she can love and trust. The flame of that hope hardly dies. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
28. Even after disappointments she's still hopeful. Even when she's wary she's weighing the balance of hopefulness. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
29. You know a woman loves you when she's well invested beyond materiality in the relationship. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
30. For some women it takes some time to get there. There's no excitement. It's a step by step process. They're weighing things. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
31. If she puts all her eggs in your basket, investing her all – self, emotions and hope, you can't disappoint her. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
32. She invested because she considered you worthy of her love and life! Relationships are deep things for women! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
33. If you want to win her back you've got a lot of work to do. Pray she just tuned off not turned off! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
34. It's more painful for her if she had a better option but chose you because of something she saw in you that nobody saw. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
35. That is a venture capital scenario. Means she believed you'll love her better and become someone great. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
36. It's a missionary love. All she asks for in return is fidelity, and quiet but deep appreciation when things play out. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
37. Then she has her justification and vindication for invested hope. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
38. If you're poor for example and declines a rich man's offer to marry you, she suffers double jeopardy if you're unfaithful. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
39. If you want to win her back you must be really persistent, and over a period of time. It's proof of your repentance. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
40. She has to get over the pain and the hurt. She has to heal. If you show remorse and genuineness maybe she'll reconsider. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
41. But you have to tell her what she means to you. Apologise for taking her for granted. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
42. List the things that make her special and state that you don't want to lose those gifts. That you don't want life regrets. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
43. Make promises, send notes, send her friends. They're key 'cos they're the comforters. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
44. God help you if one of them dislikes you! You better make peace with that individual. She just wants to see you grovel a bit. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
45. And pray that in the interim no serious guy shows up who proceeds to show her how special she is! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
46. Beg and beg and beg all you can! Send gifts, flowers. She's worth it if she's what you described to me. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
47. And if I were you I'll cut off all those sexting channels. If she ever finds out you're still maintaining contact, forget it! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
48. And trust me, your sextee (you're the sexter) will make sure she finds out! It's her one-upwomanship! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
49. Maintaining a good relationship takes discipline. You've got to cultivate discipline as a man. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
50. As you grow older you'll need this discipline even more. Or your life will become a Nollywood movie! #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
51. If you have a loving woman, who cares about you, believes in you and gives you peace, don't lose her to stupidity. #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
52. You'll lose more than you bargained for. And I'm sorry I can't go and beg her on your behalf as you suggested. Why? #Letr2Jack
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
53. You're the only one who can give guarantees. I can't do that on your behalf can I?! LA #Letr2Jack ©Leke Alder
— Leke Alder (@LekeAlder) August 3, 2013
Wow!! For you my African brother who have cheated on that special Lady in your life, what are you waiting? Make that move now!
What are your thoughts on the tweets above? Let’s discuss.
Cheers.
N.B. Let me assume you don’t know about this. In response to various demands, the very intelligent Leke Alder has created a bigger and limitless platform called http://jacknjillive.com/ where the hot conversations on these tweets can continue. While the site is in development, He is inviting you to pre-register. Registered members will get advance postings of Letter to Jack and Letter to Jil before everyone else.
Since the launch of the website is still days 50 days away, I will continue to share these letters with you over the next few weeks and will only discontinue them when the website is formally launched. So hurry and register. Catchya.
I met this lady I liked and took the easy way through my colleague. It was going gradually, but along the line I just got cold and the relationship almost died. Now she only returns my calls but does not initiate unlike before. Well I am willing to never let that happen and hoping she would get comfortable again, then I will ask her out! THIS IS ALSO FOR THE STARTERS. Be consistent if you want her for keeps.
Thanks for your comment, Chris.
You are right. Just like you will go after a missing treasure with all you have got. Consistency is key.
Cheers.